I’ve been getting quite a number of emails from girls about their situation with their Korean guys. I try to reply as much as I can though I have to admit, I don’t get to reply to every single email. However, I thought I’ll share this particular one with you as this might help others out there. Identities will never be disclosed EVER. But I hope girls learn from this situation, too. FYI, the person who sent this is a woman in her mid-twenties.
- text edited for “publication” -
Hi Ms. Kring,
Saw your blog from the YouTube channel and I was really wondering if you can give me some advise since you have a Korean boyfriend. It’s just that I don’t have anyone to ask about it. I recently had a Korean best friend and I hooked up with him before he went back to his home country. Yes, I slept with him but it was somewhat like a sudden accident. I wanted to see him a day before his flight but insisted that he will only meet me if I will do what he was asking. Prior to that he already knew my feelings for him and but he said he didn’t want to have a relationship with someone.
We really had a great time back then. He was very nice, gentle and respectful until we ended up having sex. This is really embarrassing but I just really need to let this out. I’m in love with him and he knew that and he doesn’t want me to forget him and I don’t want to forget him too. I never had a boyfriend and of course he knew that because we’re best of friends and classmates too and we usually hung out when he was still here in the Philippines. I really like Koreans but because of the bad experiences that I had with him, I now hate them. I have a lot of Korean friends and I just want to avoid them.
I’ve been sending him emails and messages through Facebook but got no reply from him, though he emphasizes to keep in touch. I even texted him on his birthday but still no reply until I received a call from Korea and it was him. He did contact me after one month and talked about the time we had together. He told me never to forget it because he’s my first in everything but every time I think of him it, it seems like I just wanted to die. I’ve been crying every night and misses him a lot but I know that what happened between us was just plain sex. I’ve been deleting him from my Facebook friends list but he keeps on adding me up. I don’t want to block him cause my friends (our classmates) will ask me why. We had a several pictures taken together and was tagged by them and I don’t want them to know what had happened between us. They just know that we are the best of friends. Will I be able to handle to situation? What do you think Ms. Kring? Stupid question, isn’t it? Do you think that he is also thinking of me? I want to forget him but its really hard. I miss him so much…
Much love,
Broken Girl
Dear Broken Girl,
Okay, since you asked for my help/advice/comment on your situation, I hope you don’t mind if I’ll be honest about what I think. I get A LOT of emails like this and it frustrates me.
FACT: There are about 10,000 Kopinos right now and many are born out of wedlock. Because so many Koreans come here for education, it’s a given that they get a lot of girls, too. And yes, Filipinas end up having sex with them and getting into relationships with them without realizing that those boys would eventually have to leave for military service or to go back to their homeland.
I realllly stress this on my other blog, kringelenzano.com. NEVER DO IT WITH ANYONE UNLESS YOU LOVE THAT PERSON and you’re old enough to handle the consequences. Thankfully, you are of that age already but it doesn’t make it any less painful, right? Howeverm since it’s been done already, you cannot take it back and you just have to learn.
That guy is emotionally blackmailing you. He knew you had feelings for him and instigated the sex, flew back to Korea and did not contact you for a month?! I mean, who the hell does that?! Only douchebags, I say! And then he’d tell you to keep in touch and not forget? That’s the last thing that you should do.
Move on, girl! That person clearly has no respect for you as a woman and yes, he only wanted the sex. You deserve much more and I say delete him not only from Facebook but also from your life. He’s a man first before he is Korean, please remember that!
That’s it, I’ve said my piece and I really wish you’d move on and find your own happiness! Hope this helped you somehow… Good luck!
ps: You might want to check this out, too! 
“I’m cheating on my boyfriend with a Korean guy”
~~~
Feel free to email me guys anytime. I really hope I could help you with some of your problems and I’d try to reply to everyone! Remember, you’re worth a lot! Stay happy, beautiful and loving…
Please don’t forget to follow us on Twitter: Kring, My Korean Boyfriend, Jimmy Kim
And “like” us on Facebook: Kring Elenzano / The Krimmy Couple / C.N.A. Philippines
Subscribe to my YouTube account: FunnySexy
